Have you ever been a stranger in the audience who wanted to help but didn’t know if you should interject or just mind your business? Does that parent even want help? Will they accept it?
While everyone else was chatting, I ran around the monkey bars and dodged kids on swings to make sure my unaware child did not get kicked in the face.
The biggest distinction between the two is that tantrums are deliberate and can be controlled by the child, whereas a meltdown is an emotional reaction to something that cannot be stopped or reasoned with. The child has lost control.
While you are young and making plans, I ask you to think about one simple question: What kind of mother do you want to be?
Tonight when it happened…all I could think was that every reaction I have had previously took made me feel like a failure. All of the research has pointed towards all of these approaches and yet the stares always feel like my reaction to her meltdown is what people look at. But I don’t know. Is it my reaction or her inability to calm down quickly enough?
The different responses I get each time I ask, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
I can only hope that other parents are doing the same because Bullying is like a virus. Once a kid is exposed, they spread it around like a head cold.
Once you have gone through the stages of accepting your child’s diagnoses, you can’t afford to go backward. You can’t let people fill you with doubt because you need to be strong. I wish I could say that Autism comes with a welcome wagon but it comes with a fight.
Before I share a future post about why and how we came to the decision to medicate our daughter, I want to talk about the positive impacts it has had on our life. (Video link below). Previously, she was unable to sit for any activity. She went from toy to toy and show to show. We … Continue reading I Only Feel Guilty When I Miss a Dose